I have been reading a few blogs and talking to a few friends of mine and this question seems to pop up like a Carrie Bradshaw article topic - Are men, the new women?
A lot of women I know have been cribbing about how they have started looking for no-strings attached flings, one-night stands etc. and it is so tough to find a man who is into that anymore (apparently, there are enough assholes for that, but said women steer clear of them... yea, right!). Apart from the diminished libidinal energies, there are a lot more aspects to touch upon here, but for the sake of keeping the excitement levels up, we'll discuss just this one, ok?
Some instances I have heard from friends (male AND female)-
1. A guy didn't wanna do it with his gf (it wouldve been her first time) because he hadnt done it in a while and was actually worried that he may not be good enough.
2. A guy didnt wanna do it with a girl he met while she was on vacation, not because he was not attracted to her, but because he thought sex was important and not to be had with someone just for the heck of it.
3. A guy didnt wanna do it with a girl he was staying with on vacation, not because he was not attracted to her, but because he was leaving and they were good friends and it would make things weird.
4. A guy turned down a threesome offer from 2 superhot women because he was in a relationship with a girl (who had been studying overseas for the past 6 months and apparently had no way of finding out.)
In all 4 situations, the women have apparently been very persuasive, in different ways, but the men in each case were steadfast. So what is with the men of today? Are we becoming sappy, sensitive fools who are just looking gift horses in the mouth? Is this part of the new (gulp) metrosexual gene??
I read on a blog that "The one advantage of casual sex is of course the delicious unfeelingness of it. The utter unspeciality." I guess we men like the speciality. Yes, I did include myself in that breed of men by saying 'we'. Don't get me wrong. I'm all for flings and one-offs and have had a few fun ones myself. But there is nothing wrong in wanting something meaningful and being sensitive about these things.
Maybe this change is because we have sensible women friends who teach us about sensitivity towards women. Maybe we have great parents who teach us not to be shallow, (the occasional (read: rare) fling is not shallow...shush) or maybe its just who we are today, because of social and sexual evolution.
Either way, this change is here. Maybe the world will be a better place from this... Maybe.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Monday, October 6, 2008
New Beginnings
"If the doors of perception were cleansed every thing would appear to man as it is, infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things through narrow chinks of his cavern." - William Blake
Yes, i copied this and i pasted it! No, it has no relevance to what I'm writing about. But then, 'copy---paste', thats what I do for a living, and I'd like to believe I'm pretty damn good at it. Maybe its time for some original thought, just for a change.
I was listening to a radio station the other day and they were discussing the ban on smoking in public places. One guy called in and spoke about how the ban was ridiculous and how people never "knowingly and purposely blow smoke in other people's faces". He also spoke about how the government should concentrate on more important things like catching terrorists and suicide bombers (umm, didn't they blow themselves up?). The RJs were mighty impressed with this caller and applauded him for being so outspoken and endorsed his views. (WHATEVER!!!)
Now, while i agree with the "concentrate on catching terrorists", I don't see why the world should come to a standstill while we all run behind terrorists. India always has been the kind of country that has been too busy with life, to let blasts affect it for too long. We haven't built memorials, celebrated/mourned anniversary after anniversary. Life must go on. While i do believe that terrorists must be caught, communal violence must stop etc etc, I also believe thathe government can't concentrate only on one thing at a time. Thats is the point of having a cabinet and ministries handling various portfolios. Each one does his bit in one's assigned area. And the Health Ministry is doing their bit to provide a smoke-free environment for everyone. Kudos to them. I also believe that everyone has the right to a smoke-free environment. And Mr. Radio-Caller, you don't need to blow smoke directly in someone's face for them to be affected by it. Sure, if you want to kill yourself, you're more than welcome to light up in the privacy of your own home.
People say "what about the cars that pollute the roads, and industries that pollute all over the place. The government should clamp down on them too". Absolutely! But that doesn't mean that they should turn a blind eye towards one thing, while they try to rectify another. And in any case the govt is working on this. All vehicles are required to be Bharat Stage III compliant, which means they have to follow certain emission norms. I have not read up on what factories etc. have to comply with, so i won't comment on that.
My point is, change happens everywhere, slowly and simultaneously. You can't disregard one move just because the move in other areas have not been as prompt. As human beings, we are naturally resistant towards change. But if we think about this ban objectively, we'll realise it will turn out to be better for us in the long run. (fuck that, it will be better in the short run too)
Yes, i copied this and i pasted it! No, it has no relevance to what I'm writing about. But then, 'copy---paste', thats what I do for a living, and I'd like to believe I'm pretty damn good at it. Maybe its time for some original thought, just for a change.
I was listening to a radio station the other day and they were discussing the ban on smoking in public places. One guy called in and spoke about how the ban was ridiculous and how people never "knowingly and purposely blow smoke in other people's faces". He also spoke about how the government should concentrate on more important things like catching terrorists and suicide bombers (umm, didn't they blow themselves up?). The RJs were mighty impressed with this caller and applauded him for being so outspoken and endorsed his views. (WHATEVER!!!)
Now, while i agree with the "concentrate on catching terrorists", I don't see why the world should come to a standstill while we all run behind terrorists. India always has been the kind of country that has been too busy with life, to let blasts affect it for too long. We haven't built memorials, celebrated/mourned anniversary after anniversary. Life must go on. While i do believe that terrorists must be caught, communal violence must stop etc etc, I also believe thathe government can't concentrate only on one thing at a time. Thats is the point of having a cabinet and ministries handling various portfolios. Each one does his bit in one's assigned area. And the Health Ministry is doing their bit to provide a smoke-free environment for everyone. Kudos to them. I also believe that everyone has the right to a smoke-free environment. And Mr. Radio-Caller, you don't need to blow smoke directly in someone's face for them to be affected by it. Sure, if you want to kill yourself, you're more than welcome to light up in the privacy of your own home.
People say "what about the cars that pollute the roads, and industries that pollute all over the place. The government should clamp down on them too". Absolutely! But that doesn't mean that they should turn a blind eye towards one thing, while they try to rectify another. And in any case the govt is working on this. All vehicles are required to be Bharat Stage III compliant, which means they have to follow certain emission norms. I have not read up on what factories etc. have to comply with, so i won't comment on that.
My point is, change happens everywhere, slowly and simultaneously. You can't disregard one move just because the move in other areas have not been as prompt. As human beings, we are naturally resistant towards change. But if we think about this ban objectively, we'll realise it will turn out to be better for us in the long run. (fuck that, it will be better in the short run too)
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